Charlie Smith, guest contributor

Being a parent isn’t a job, it is a lifelong turn of events that can bring us so much joy and at other times it kicks us where it hurts. Family life is just so unpredictable that we are constantly learning and developing ways in which to cope. On occasions we get it just right only to find out that we have totally messed up in another area. Our best endeavors are not always enough and we should try to learn from these mistakes. This article looks at some common mistakes we make as we strive to do the best for our kids.

 

 

 

Is Your Bark Worse Than Your Bite?

A good parent will never want to punish their kids, but sometimes they will leave us with no options. Usually a warning will suffice and we can get on with the nice things in life, however if you have issued an ultimatum, what happens when it is ignored?  We set boundaries and expect our kids to follow them, when we fail to follow through with the punishment, our kids will start to push the envelope once more. It is the same as when we promise our children that we will buy them something nice and we fail to see this through. As a result, our kids feel cheated and start to doubt everything that we say. Just be true to yourselves and ensure that punishments and treats are both met the same way, your kids will respect you and take your word as gospel.

 

 

 

That’s The Limit!

It can be hard for our children to know if they are behaving badly if we fail to set a specific limit for them. Expectations need to be realistic and also transparent if they are to behave accordingly. Most of these limits are in place to keep our children safe, and as long as they understand this they should toe the line nicely. These limits are a positive part of family life, not negative. By promoting some safe guidelines we are preparing our kids for the real world and hopefully they will adhere to these as they grow more independent.

 

 

 

Letting Them Have Their Way

We can’t always expect our little terrors to act like angels, because that would just be plain boring! But we have to limit the amount of times they decide to take things into their own hands. Freewill is all nice and good but occasionally we have to lay down the law. If we let them run amok we risk turning them into spoilt little brats. By giving in to your children’s demands you are giving up your role as their parent. Stretch the limits by all means but learn the power of the word ‘No’ before it is too late.

 

 

 

Master And Servant

One of our duties as parents is to look after our kids in every way possible, and that usually means doing a lot for them. But it is also important to allow them certain leeway when it comes to daily tasks. It is healthy for our kids to learn the importance of looking after themselves from a young age. Little tasks like putting their clothes away tidily and helping us around the house are core skills that will stay with them long after they have flown the coop.

Do What You Can

Hopefully some of these tips will help you to be there for your kids in the best way possible – Good Luck!

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Author Bio:

Charlie Smith is a part of the team at Well Researched Reviews (visit here to know more) and he is dedicated to his work. During his time off from work, he prefers to spend time with his family and he often blogs about his life experiences.